Caregivers and the Challenge - Asking for Help

Caregivers, like many of us, have grown up in this culture that says asking for help is a weakness. Some of us have grown up in chaotic environments where we never learned to trust enough to ever depend on anyone else.

The Self-Sufficient, that’s what I've called the individual who suffers from Self-Sufficiency Syndrome, takes on too much, is overly responsible, and does everything all by herself.

Enter the greatest challenge thus far – giving care to someone in our lives we’re very close to and now need us in a whole new way. All of our Self-Sufficient characteristics kick in:

1. Asking for help makes us look weak and vulnerable
2. We look like we’re not up to the task
3. We would feel guilty
4. We’d be putting our responsibility on someone else
5. Looking strong and able is the ultimate goal no matter what

Remember that old saying: when the student is ready, the teacher will come? Maybe this challenge is just the one that will force you to grow in a whole new way. We are social animals. We were never meant to do it alone. And certainly not when caring for someone else as well!

Then how can we break this self-defeating behavior at a time that calls for all the strength and fortitude we possess? One of my very favorite quotes is by Ambrose Redmon, “Courage is not the absence of fear- it’s deciding something is more important than the fear.”

So what’s our fear? Many of them are contained in that 5 item list I’ve already given – that you won’t measure up. What’s more important than those fears? That your loved one receives the best possible care and you emerge from this experience intact. Without help, you won’t!

How do you break years of habitual behaviors? You don’t. You follow William James, the great philosopher’s advice and “act as if” you believe that you should ask for help and James tells us one morning you’ll wake up and believe it.

1.Realize that when you ask for help, you’re giving someone else a gift-the dignity of helping YOU! Those around you don’t want to watch you struggle alone. Give them a gift!

2.One of the key problems for the Self-Sufficient is giving up control. It’s scary. A way to maintain a modicum of control is to let others know exactly what they can do to help. It’ll create a win/win and let you still maintain some control.

3.That hole in your tongue from not saying, “no thanks” will heal much more quickly than the burnout you’ll experience if you do.

4.Keep your eye on the fact that the person you’re caring for will receive a higher quality of care because you come to your responsibility having had an opportunity to get away occasionally or have support and assistance when you need it.

5.Wouldn’t it be miraculous if this experience supplied you with the knowledge and tools to grow as a person, so that you come through it more self-developed, feeling more loved, more cherished than you ever have before? There’s that opportunity. You just have to be the one to open the door.

Peggy Collins is the author of Help Is Not a Four-Letter Word: Why Doing It All Is Doing You In, published by McGraw-Hill. She’s also a professional speaker and trainer. You can contact her at http://www.helpisnotafourletterword.com For a weekly TIP for ASKING for HELP, go to her website.

Your Key To High Self Esteem

Personal Identity -

If you want to achieve anything in life you need a good amount of self confidence. In order to succeed at anything you need a realistic self image. But in order to have either of these you need a good degree of self esteem. Do you know what it is and how to get it?

Self esteem begins with a positive self-image. This involves holding a balanced yet loving, approving and healthy self-view. Having said that, this character trait is neither arrogance nor is it narcissistic self-love. True self esteem gives us a balanced realistic appreciation for our own talents. It allows us honest introspection of our strengths and a complete acceptance of our human limitations. High self esteem is a reflection of the true value in which you hold yourself. It also frees you from any overtly polarized view of others and how you perceive they think of you.

Those people who display traits of high self-esteem have a very strong sense of who they are. They know who they are and what they want. They have a realistic world view of others and themselves. Their self-image is positive but also very rational.

However, do not think that people with high self esteem always feel great and proud of themselves. Self esteem is about having a balanced view of yourself. Even people with high self esteem make mistakes and do things that they later regret. The key difference with these people is that they recover quickly make the changes they need to make, apologize for their behaviour where necessary and learn from the experience. Individuals who have developed a healthy degree of self-esteem are able to use these situations as a form of feedback and learn from them. It is alright to feel bad about their behaviour and make atonement for it but they do not let it effect their entire sense of identity nor do they carry it with them as emotional baggage.

If you are rude or aggressive with a person it doesn't mean you are a terrible person or should be punished in some way. People with high self esteem are aware of this. These people are capable to taking full responsibility for their behaviour, admitting that it was undesirable. They will then try to make the situation "right" before they learn from it and put it behind them. They do not see themselves as bad people, just a good person that made a bad mistake. However, people with low self esteem tend to pile blame on themselves and think themselves unworthy and unlovable because they are "so bad" and "so unworthy and worthless".

They think because they have behaved badly it is a reflection of the total person they are when, in fact, it is only one portion of the complex personality they have. People with high self-esteem have a well-rounded view of themselves. They mostly know their own weaknesses and faults. However, because they know this they can either accept that this is a part of who they are or they can change the thing about themselves that they find undesirable. People with high self esteem can do this relatively easily because they don't see a change in one aspect of their character as an assault on their whole personality! So they can still have self criticism but also have high self-esteem at the same time.

A key to being in this mental and emotional state is to avoid generalising about mistakes made by ourselves and others, recognising that our weaknesses are part of who we are, while recognising that some of our behaviour can be changed without it affecting our sense of identity!

So start to see yourself as those who love you see you. Ask them what they think. Ask them to be realistic and to point out your good characteristics. Then take stock of yourself and start to believe in yourself. You can develop the skills needed to be critical of yourself, in order to learn and grow, while at the same time realizing that you are a unique, special, loving yet slightly flawed child of the Universe. You are wonderful. Accept that!

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Numerology Compatibility With Life Path Number 2

1 and 2:

The nice thing about this combination is that one will be a leader and another will be a follower. A 2 is often submissive to a 1 and may endeavor to change his or her entire life in order to be with the submissive 1. However although the 2 does not mind being the power behind the throne she or he may feel hurt by the 1's total's attention to his or her career.

It may also be quite hard for the 2 to understand why the 1 must include an entire community in his or her relationship. 2's thrive on one on one interactions and the 1's love the spotlight. The 2 may be a nest for the 1 only to find out that he or she is never home to enjoy it.

2 and 2:

These 2 understand each other completely. If there is any problem at all with the relationship it is that they may get too close and exclude the outside world altogether. However in general this is a perfect pairing in which to others the two lovers will seem like "two peas in a pod." They are such soulmates that they may even look alike!

The only danger of this combination is codependency. One 2 will not leave another no matter how badly the other is behaving. The result can be an abusive relationship. This couple may be so devoted to each other that it is suffocating. Although infidelity is rare in these relationships, alcoholism and other problems are not. Two 2's together may feel like they are somehow trapped together in a situation that will never have any resolution.

2 and 3:

If the 2 is devoted enough to the 3 then this relationship can work. Like the 1 relationship, the 2 has to settle for being in the background or just being the power behind the throne. However for this to work it must be understood completely that the 2 is working in the service of the 3 and otherwise does not have a life. As most 2's love this type of devotion it can work quite well.

The main problem with this relationship is likely to be infidelity. A 3 finds it hard to settle down with just one person and most of them and may feel quite smothered by the 2. It is possible as well that the 2 may be slightly more in love with the 3 than vice versa. Furthermore the 2 may feel constantly threatened by the popularity and social invitations that seem to come naturally to a 3.

2 and 4:

A 4 usually leads a fairly challenging life and benefits greatly from the care of a loving 2. The 2 likes to have a mission when it comes to people and they make a good rescuer for the 4. This is good for the 4 who does not have to worry about being abandoned by the 2.

The upside for the 2 about being with a 4 is that they are so unfortunate in one way or another that the 2 never has to worry about the 2's worst nightmare – infidelity. The 4 will always be too busy, too challenged or too needy to be unfaithful and others will not usually see the 4 partners as suitable.

2 and 5:

The 5 is not the best romantic combination as the 2 usually wants to make a nest and settle down and the 5 may be more into travel and adventure. Many 2's may feel attracted to 5's because they are so romantic and dashing but the problem is that the 5 is more destined to have a series of relationships rather than just 1 during the entire course of a life.

Although these two numbers get along, the 2 will often feel lonely as the 5 may never be at home. Furthermore a 5 may never be able to supply the 2 with the emotional reassurance that the relationship will last forever.

2 and 6:

This is not a bad combination as both numbers are very family oriented. This is definitely a pairing that can result in children and a happy marriage with a long line of descendents.

The problem with this combination is usually due to a family member that somehow serves to distract the 6 from his relationship with a 2. Usually this problem manifests as a needy ex-spouse that drains financial resources, an overbearing parent or a situation where the 2 and 6 are destined to live with the extended family. This does not make the 2 that happy because they like all of the focus to be on them.

2 and 7:

Although it does not seem like this relationship can work, it does sometimes. The introverted 7 often brings out the nurturer in the 2. The 2 may make drawing the often shy 7 out of his or her shell a life-long noble mission. Or the 2 may decide that it is worth sacrificing intimacy and emotional gratification in order to support a genius.

For the most part 2's and 7's really don't get along that well as the 2 usually becomes impatient with the brilliant 7's emotional retardation. The 7 may also feel that the 2's reliance on feeling is too much or not be interested in the 2's desire to have children.

2 and 8:

2's and 8's make great partners. This is because both are completely into the concepts of mating for life and building a foundation that will last a lifetime. The result of this union is usually wealth, health, prosperity and lots of children.

The only downside is that sometimes the 8 gets too busy to spend a lot of time with the 2 which can make the 2 feel lonely. An 8 may feel occasionally smothered by a 2 who is asking them to drop their ambitions for a few hours so the two can spend more quality time together.

1 and 9:

A 9 is a challenging relationship for a 2 mainly because a 9 is so self-absorbed that there is little room for the 2's needs and concerns. Although a 9 is a spiritual number it can also signify a person who is moody, troubled and faced with a difficult path in life that in some ways qualifies it as more of a loner number.

Usually with a 2 and a 9 the 2 becomes some kind of phase in the 9's life. Usually the thing that splits them up is some form of jealousy, addiction or codependency.

B Gorman, Master Numerologist of http://www.123Numerology.com/ to be consulted for your free numerology reading.The Collaborative Humanistic Workplace

Personal Power in Your Boss

Socialize Successfully With Your Boss and Employees

During the twenty-three years I spent in management, there were many occasions when I participated in social events with my employees. Likewise, I attended parties where my supervisors were present.

By participating in hundreds of receptions, dinners, celebrations, award ceremonies, fund raising campaign kickoffs and other out of the office happenings, I have learned which communication behaviors work and which ones backfire.

You will agree that, handled wisely, social time with employees can boost morale. Employees welcome chances to get to know the boss as a person, not just a manager. During the frenetic work week, they encounter the boss as the source of discipline, assignments, occasional reprimands and, typically, very little personal chit chat. So it's refreshing to be around the supervisor when she showcases her humor, asks about your family and hobbies, and gives an unrestrained laugh.

However, both employees and bosses should be aware that the social scene does not erase the workplace lines of authority. Example: Because the boss likes your personality at a party does not mean you will get the next promotion, which depends instead on your professional skills.

Here are seven guidelines that every employer and employee should keep in mind for after-hours mingling:

ONE: Avoid off color humor. The jokes you would tell your golf buddies could jeopardize your professional reputation if you share them with workplace colleagues, no matter how informal the setting. True, they might laugh out of courtesy, or maybe from discomfort. Yet you risk losing their respect. Play safe. Don't tell any joke that you wouldn't tell at an office staff meeting.

TWO: Refrain from touching, other than a handshake greeting, unless you happen to go dancing with the group. Draping an arm around a colleague might prompt an eventual lawsuit, especially when you don't give that person an expected raise. And the employee who caresses the boss can create an image of fakery and pandering.

THREE: Drink moderately. Every year, holiday parties, company picnics and similar outings become career graveyards for bosses and employees who want to become "the life of the party."

Sometimes we assume that two more drinks will help us talk more easily. That's a mistake. Two more drinks will encourage you to talk more--period. The impaired speaking and unsteady walk that follow those extra cocktails could brand you: "lush," "a drunk," "undisciplined," or something similar.

Along those lines, never mention that drinking is important to you. Stay away from "Nothing like a stiff drink at the end of the day to help a guy unwind." Whimsically, we slip into comments like that, such as "Thought that bartender would never bring our order." Although you are trying to inject a bit of levity into the conversation, the quips could backfire, categorizing you as a problem drinker.

FOUR: Make sure you circulate among everyone present, not just the managerial group you feel most comfortable with. The person who talks with his or her clique and avoids everyone else nullifies the inclusive good will the event is intended to foster. Spend time with line employees as well as "the suits."

FIVE: Avoid shop talk. Demonstrate that you have an interesting, meaningful life away from the corporation. Nobody wants to hear your opinions about a five year plan, a drop in sales or the employee you had to fire. As an old song advises, "talk happy talk, things that people like to hear."

Stay well informed about major sporting events, releases of new movies, great places to vacation, new restaurants your friends have recommended, bestselling books and national events. Definitely, party goers want to talk about them, not corporate problems and plans.

SIX: Listen attentively. Good listeners become our favorite people. We move away from motormouths who dominate conversations. Encourage others to talk, with comments like "very interesting," "tell me more," and "What happened next?" When Stephen Covey wrote 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he titled chapter five, "Seek first to understand, and then to be understood." Follow that advice, and you'll become the hit of the company's social outing.

SEVEN: Mind your manners. If the occasion includes a meal, pay special attention to your table etiquette. You want to look like you belong at top-tier banquets. Illustrate that you have acquired polish and grace.

Bill Lampton, Ph.D., helps organizations “Finish in First Place” by strengthening their communication, motivation, sales, and customer service. His speeches, seminars, and communication coaching have benefited numerous clients, including the Ritz-Carlton Cancun, Gillette, Duracell, Procter & Gamble, Missouri Bar, and the Environmental Protection Agency. Visit his Web site to sign up for his complimentary monthly E-mail newsletter: http://www.championshipcommunication.com/ Call Dr. Lampton to discuss how his services will benefit your organization: 770-534-3425.

Meditation does take sometime to master

Best Stress Management Techniques: One of Seven
Think of a time in your life when you were at peace with yourself. How did it feel? Take sometime right now to feel it. Now, how would you like to feel that again? Today and everyday? If you want to experience that level of peace and happiness everyday, please read this article to discover exactly how you can reduce stress to reach that goal.
One of the most effective ways to reduce stress is to meditate. Meditation does not have to be elaborate or boring. In case you don't know what meditation is, meditation simply means relaxing and turning your focus to the inner self, higher self or to God. Meditation is the quickest way to shift your focus, relax and to feel loved.

There are many meditation methods in the world. The simplest method is to just close your eyes, relax your muscles, focus on your breathing, take deep and relaxing breaths and just let go. Let go of all unnecessary thoughts that cross your mind.

If you have ever tried meditation before, you might have found that it is not particularly easy. This can be a result of various factors. When you meditate, it is absolutely important to give your full focus to meditating. After all, the point here is to relax your mind and body so meditation will not work if you are busy thinking about something else. The next rule is to relax your body first. It is almost impossible to meditate and relax your mind when your body is in pain. Before you start meditating, you should always take time to relax the tension spots in your body.
Meditation does take sometime to master but it is worth it. Meditation not only allows you to reduce stress, it also allows you to prevent stress. Spend sometime each morning meditating and relaxing. This helps relax your mind and sets you up for relaxing day. You are less likely to get angered or stressed out when you are relaxed. When you start meditation, make sure you give yourself enough time to learn it. Do not get upset if you get distracted or cannot relax for the first couple of days. You can try joining local meditation clubs or online groups to speed up the learning process.
While managing your stress is a noble thought, meditation can do much more for you. It can help you prevent stress and that is the reason why meditation is the number one Stress Relief technique.
You can learn more about my Top Seven stress relief techniques at my Stress Management Tips website And, if you are looking for a online community to learn meditation, you can try out the Spiritual Development Forums, they have got some cool things in there.

Rene Descartes Infuence on Life

René Descartes (French IPA: (March 31, 1596 – February 11, 1650), also known as Renatus Cartesius (latinized form), was a highly influential French philosopher, mathematician, scientist, and writer. Dubbed the "Founder of Modern Philosophy", and the "Father of Modern Mathematics", much of subsequent western philosophy is a reaction to his writings, which have been closely studied from his time down to the present day.

His influence in mathematics is also apparent, the Cartesian coordinate system that is used in plane geometry and algebra being named for him, and he was one of the key figures in the Scientific Revolution.Descartes frequently contrasted his views with those of his predecessors. In the opening section of the Passions of the Soul, a treatise on the Early Modern version of what are now commonly called emotions, he goes so far as to assert that he will write on his topic "as if no one had written on these matters before".

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Anthony Robbins

Anthony J. Mahavorick, pen name Anthony Robbins, also known as Tony Robbins, (born on 29 February 1960 in North Hollywood, California, USA) is an American life coach, writer, and professional speaker. Robbins has been called upon by sports professionals such as Andre Agassi and the San Antonio Spurs, and he was called to the White House to meet with President ClintonAnthony Robbins is the inventor and proponent of what he refers to as neuroassociative conditioning, which is based on Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).[6] Robbins studied NLP under NLP co-founder John Grinder, who encouraged him to look into the fire walking experience, which became the foundation of his popular fire walk seminars.

The book Unlimited Power offers a number of examples of how to employ elements of NLP in day to day situations.Robbins also conducts seminars, the most famous of which is his four-day Unleash the Power Within seminar, during which the participants walk barefoot over hot coals. The aim of the seminar, demonstrated in the fire walk, is to illustrate that the main quality shared by those who achieve greatness is the ability to take action ('Personal Power'). Robbins' philosophy asserts that fear often holds people back from achieving what they want with their life, and that fear is a more powerful motivator than desire or attraction. Walking safely on burning coals requires no special physical skills, but it does require the mental discipline to overcome one's inner doubts. Applying that same principle to other aspects of life can, Robbins claims, empower the individual to attempt tasks he or she would previously (erroneously) have considered impossible.

Recently Robbins has appeared at many of The Learning Annex Real Estate Wealth Expos wherein he is a headline speaker and at the Technology, Entertainment & Design (TED conference) conference. Robbins promotes a mainly vegetarian and vegan lifestyle and endorses the views of Robert Young and Natural Hygiene practices regarding the need for an alkaline diet. In recent events, he has included fish into his diet plan, citing the need for omega 3, 6, and 9 fatty acids in a complete diet. He has also praised John Robbins' book Diet for a New America. He also promotes a concept of diet based on a predetermined value or "electrical energy" of foods.

How do I manifest the things I desire

Thought Vibration
How do I manifest the things I desire?
Every one knows this phenomenon; certain thoughts are going around inside of your head and you can’t seem to stop them. These thoughts can be happy, good thoughts, but of course they can also be sad, unhappy or bad thoughts.
In order to begin manifesting the things we desire we need to consistently keep our thoughts on the subject of our desire. Every time you feel it slipping away, hoopla, back to THE subject. Once we manage to keep our focus there, we will send out a certain vibration, in this case a good vibration, because we focus on something we would really like to have, be or experience.
This vibration will now attract other thoughts with a matching vibration and then it will attract things into our experience with a similar vibration; maybe a book, an article, a conversation. We will notice people are coming into our experience, people that also match our good vibration.
This is the Law of Attraction at work.
Of course, this process works always, so we better make it work in our advantage. Keeping our thoughts on illness will make us vibrate in a negative way and we will attract matching vibrations such as illness.
So the trick is to keep our focus on Well being, Health and Happy things. We will send out a positive vibration into the Universe and it will respond by sending us more of the same. Thus we attract matching vibrations and we will manifest the things we desire in our experience.
So, can we tell if we send out positive or negative vibrations? Yes, sure we can! We possess this wonderful tool called our emotions. They always tell us if we are on the right track.
Positive vibrations make us feel good, happy and healthy and strong, whereas negative vibrations make us feel sad, unhappy and depressed.
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Vibration Of Truth

I Asked God

I Asked God...??? Category: Self Improvement: Grief-Loss
I asked God to take away my pain. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. Her spirit was whole, her body was only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience. God said, No. Patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is learned.
I asked God to give me happiness. God said, No. I give you blessings. Happiness is up to you.
I asked God to spare me pain. God said, No. Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow. God said, No. You must grow on your own, but I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life. God said, No. I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me. God said...Ahhhh, finally you have the idea.
Pass this on and brighten some-ones day, and you will blessed as well.
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Are You Free of the Opinion of Others

How to Become Someone Who Thinks Positive Naturally

As I was visiting someone’s home the other day, I saw an excerpt from Louise Hay’s book “Heal your life”, neatly framed and displayed on a wall in their bathroom. Definitely an excellent location for quietly reflecting upon the deeper meanings of a quote!
I enjoyed this idea so much that I am including the excerpt below.
Although not only for that reason.
You certainly know about Louise Hay. She is the Diva of “Positive thinking”. Think straight, feel good, and there you have it. The life of your dreams magically unfolding in front of your very own eyes. Yes!
But what if her teaching gets on your nerves like it does on mine at times? After all, it’s all beautiful.
Then why aren’t we jumping head on into it?
Wouldn’t it because we have difficulties trusting that life can be that good?
Or worse, that it can be good for a while, and then you loose it all ...
It just happened that I’ve been working lately with several people confronted with that same issue. They were enjoying great breakthroughs in their lives, while being totally scared that something would suddenly destroy it all.
Come on, I told them, get out of it! Just say your affirmations and everything will be fine!
Just joking!
Because, and thanks Heavens for Energy Psychology, we did move full speed into the fears they were experiencing. Accepting this “awful negativity” as it was. While thoroughly healing all the pain and suffering that originated it.
Big difference. Isn’t?
If someone suggests that you “step out of it” when you’re feeling down and unhappy, don’t listen!
Instead, learn how to use an Energy Technique to heal your suffering. They are incredibly easy to practice on your own , and their creators usually offer their teachings at no charge on their websites.
Wishing you many happy breakthroughts, I'll leave you with Louise Hay's beautiful words: "Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite well of love ..."
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2. Reprinted by permission from “Heal your body” by Louise L. Hay
"Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite well of love. I now allow this love to flow to the surface. It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied.
The more love I use and give, the more I have to give. The supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good, it is an expression of my inner joy.
I love myself, therefore, I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feed it nourishing food and beverages, I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy.
I love myself, therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in. I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so tha t all who enter, myself included, will feel the love and be nourished by it.
I love myself, therefore, I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities, working with and for people that I love and that love me, and earning a good income.
I love myself therefore, I behave and think in a loving way to all people, for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied. I only attract loving people in my world for they are a mirror of what I am.
I love myself therefore, I forgive and totally release the past and all past experiences and I am free.
I love myself therefore, I love totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright and joyous, and secure for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now and forever more. And so it is.
Sophie Merle, EFT-Adv http://www.sophiemerle.com/
Certified Feng Shui Expert and Energy Psychology Practitioner (EFT, BSFF, TAT, Zensight Process, ZPoint Process). Published Author (work featured in the French "Book of the Month" Club). For a FREE subscription to "Be Your Own Therapist " News, published monthly by Sophie reporting from the Fielf of Energy Psychology and Self-Healing or to get information about her latest book encompassing Twenty-Two Self-Healing protocols with the wonderful Zensight Process, please log on to: http://www.zensightprocess-all-about-love-healing.com/

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10 Ways to Manifest Control of Your Life
The more authentic information about Manifesting you know, the more likely people are to consider you a Manifesting expert. Read on for even more Manifesting facts that you can share.
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and manifesting have nothing to do with one another. But many of us develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequently feel overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and manifest the life we want.
Practicing positive thinking allows us to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips are practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care of Yourself, When you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest, it’s much easier to maintain a positive outlook on life.
2. Be Grateful Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds to stop and admire something beautiful, to be thankful for what you do have, and appreciate the good things in life will make a huge difference.
3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Your fears will become reality if you do not take action. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from Using Absolutes Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is. Never use” never” and “always” in an argument, it will cause the problem to become unsolvable as the other person will be defending his/her behavior rather than solving the problem.
5. Detach From Negative Thoughts Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. Replace it with a positive thought. Keep a small notebook with your goals, or a picture of what you desire, and when a negative thought starts, look at what you really want. Do not waste your manifesting powers on stuff you don’t want.
6. Remember Your Goals Write down you goals and dreams in a notebook and carry it with you all the time. Whenever you find a spare moment, look at your dreams and goals to remind you what direction you want your life to go in. An extra bonus to this is when you have an idea or inspiration you will have somewhere to write it down.
7. Practice Loving and Touching You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. Dogs are called mans best friend for a reason, pet your dog and you will feel better.
8. Increase Your Social Activity By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.
10. Use Pattern Interrupts If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
Now might be a good time to write down the main points covered above. The act of putting it down on paper will help you remember what's important about Manifesting.
To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing our best.
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Ralston Heath recently retired from 25+ years of active duty. Now that his life is his own again, he is working to share with the world all he knows. Check him out on his blog http://manifesting-dreams.blogspot.com/
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